I’m a mother of two young British children, and I’m a survivor of long-term domestic abuse and honour-based violence.
A friend who was worried about me referred me to KMEWO. At that time, I felt trapped — completely isolated from my family and community. I wasn’t allowed to work, learn English, or even leave the house on my own. I had no money of my own and no support.
The abuse got worse over time. It wasn’t just emotional — there was physical violence too. After a serious incident, I was pressured into travelling abroad. They told me it was for mental health treatment and to renew my visa, but I later found out something far more terrifying.
While abroad, I discovered that my in-laws were planning to take my children to another country without telling me. That’s when I knew I had to act. I escaped with my daughters to my parents’ country, and, after a long and frightening journey, I finally returned to the UK.
But even then, we weren’t safe.
When we got back, my brother-in-law — who still had a key to my flat — tried to force his way in. I was terrified. Social Services moved us into temporary accommodation under Section 17, but it took a long time to get proper help. During that time, I had no money, no stability, and two traumatised children to care for. I didn’t even have enough for food or basic items.
KMEWO stepped in when I had no one else. They helped me with emergency support — food, travel, clothing, and household items. They were the only ones I could turn to when other services were slow to respond. Their caseworker listened without judgment and helped me every step of the way.
With their help, I’ve been able to:
- Make a safety plan
- Get legal advice for immigration and family law
- Apply for Universal Credit and Housing Benefit
- Find support from Social Services and MARAC
- Connect with my children’s school and other professionals
- Start building a life again, one step at a time
I’m still living with fear — the risk of child abduction hasn’t gone away. My legal team is working hard to get protective orders in place. I know I have a long journey ahead, but I finally feel like someone is standing beside me.
A Message to Other Women
If you’re reading this and you feel trapped like I did — please know that you’re not alone. There is help. There are people who will believe you and stand with you.
I’m thankful to KMEWO for helping me and my children feel safe again.